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The Refusal To Stay Where It's False (An Essay)
in The NO, SEX, Makin Moves, Human Dynamics, Zero Point, Lovers, Essays, Jesus Christ, Long
my NO with him only adds to the turn on
without that being my incentive to honour it
all i know in a moment is not this
what he does with that is not my business
not my ‘problem’
not a consideration at all
and yet
what he’s done with each zig and zag of me
has been heavenly
so dreamy
and
as i continue to ride each edge
making the entrance point more narrow
more pristine for the god in me
what awaits me on the other side of that perpetual sharpening
is the more that can’t be tasted
the more that can’t be felt
were i to choose to just deny myself
and abandon what is true
and it’s that whittling down to nothing
that refusal to stay where it’s false
that devotion to truth in each moment
(no matter what happens as a result)
that creates a vortex for the ALL
the ALL that can’t be named
the ALL beyond my wildest dreams
the ALL that’s sourced from NO
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Sex vs SEX (An Essay)
in SEX, Most Popular, Makin Moves, Zero Point, Lovers, Essays, Convos, Long
in the middle of the night
he and i had a lovely conversation about sex
and not surprisingly
based on how we met and how things are unfolding
we share a similar view on play
sex for the sake of sex
hits no true spot
but the experience of SEX
that has no beginning, no middle, no end
that may or may not include penetration
that may or may not include touch or a release
that is not marked separate from a ‘non-sex’ event
(because it’s alllll SEX, baby)
that is where the magic is
that is what arouses more than a particular position or body type
more than a pre-determined set of preferences
more than a ‘this worked on her last time so i’ll just do that again’ kinda vibe
because SEX is a dance in the NOW
so you can’t bring a (past) thing with you
nor can you aim for something else
you must make each move from exactly where you are
without leaving what’s alive
without leaving YOU
because true SEX is beyond the physical
the body is just the vessel through which you play
endlessly
truthfully
fluidly
to more
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Can You Meet Me Here? (An Essay)
in Zero Point, SEX, Human Dynamics, Lovers, Essays, Long
even with a new lover
the zero point is what i’m after
it’s:
can you meet me here
in the place where i reside
when i offer no bridge
when everything false is denied
and…
(not) surprisingly,
he can
because he’s empty
present
open
true
he’s the most beautiful canvas
to create something new
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Aim Directly And You'll Miss (An Essay)
in Makin Moves, Money, Zero Point, Human Dynamics, Most Popular, Essays, Lovers, Long
it’s not about going after the money or the person or any thing directly
there’s no real power in an outsourced move
because when you focus on the moveable
the changeable
the malleable (illusory) thing
it prevents you from doing the only thing
that has the power to move ALL things
(keeping the focus on YOU, with each and every move)
but when you make your move
because it’s true
regardless of the money or the other
you ‘get’ who and what is made for you
you always get what’s true
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The Limp Game of BDSM (An Essay)
True Dominance and Submission is about the energetic tension that can only come from a deeply powerful state.
And since most can’t generate, hold, or withstand such a thing,
they use force, rules, rituals and tools
to (over) compensate.
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You Don't Need Closure (An Essay)
in Makin Moves, Most Popular, Human Dynamics, Essays, Lovers, Death, Long
When you let a situation ‘bleed out’ (come to its natural and inevitable conclusion), you choose not to touch it because it doesn’t require an intervention.
It’s not avoidance.
It’s knowing through discernment.
It’s staying where it’s true.
Not remaining where it’s flat.
And…
It’s not true that you need ‘closure’.
To wrap things up.
To contrive an end point,
just so you can say it’s done.
It’s done the moment it flatlines.
Anything beyond that is just more of that.
So no need to state the obvious.
Or bring it back to life.
Just stay where it’s most alive,
as everything dead falls away.
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You Don't Have Issues (An Essay)
in Money, Health, Makin Moves, Most Popular, Shit Stack, Human Dynamics, Essays, Lovers, Long
You don’t have a money issue.
A health issue.
A relationship issue.
Any issue at all.
You have whatever is brought to the surface through whatever meaning you’ve projected onto whatever is happening or not happening with your account, your health, your relationships, your whatever the fuck.
Not an issue.
An invitation.
It’s not about having or not having a certain amount of money.
It’s not about having or not having a certain measure of health.
It’s not about having or not having the relationship(s) of your supposed dreams.
It’s about facing and transmuting every bit of constriction / density / matter / illusion that shows up as you navigate every single facet of life - including your finances, your health, your relationships and all the rest.
It’s not about the category.
It’s about the congestion.
And the area in which you feel the most congested / restricted / powerless, is where you think there’s an issue (naturally), but ultimately it’s just the spot that’s the ripest to fuck with (look at, challenge, and ultimately see through).
It’s your own self-generated playground to unclog, free up, and own your damn power already.
So let go of the concept of there being an issue.
There’s no such thing.
There’s just energy moving freely or temporarily getting jammed up.
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The Anomaly (An Essay)
in Zero Point, Most Popular, Human Dynamics, SEX, Uncluttered, Promos, Makin Moves, Essays, Lovers, Long
In complete stillness, what surrounds you is a vortex that spits out almost everything and everyone.
Matter is destroyed on contact.
Making it nearly impossible for anyone to make it through the tunnel unscathed, if at all.
The level of purity (lack of density) required for another to reach that still point of you, is immense.
And incredibly rare.
Making it that much more potent and extraordinary when an anomaly enters the scene.
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The Directive is Known (An Essay)
The Dom commands without a word.
The directive is known.
Felt.
Obeyed.
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You Don't Need Boundaries (An Essay)
Standards, boundaries and thresholds are what you create / enforce / adhere to / require when your energy doesn’t speak for itself, when you don’t actually trust yourself, and your choices aren’t sourced from the truth of each moment.
Trying to regulate / control your environment by making sure that others know you’re not available / only available for X, Y, Z, and then monitoring and dealing with any ‘transgressions’,
and being rigid on a particular stance that was conditioned or intellectually chosen in the past (which has no bearing on what’s actually true for you in the present without that contrived overlay),
is an attempt to do in the physical what you’re unable to do in the non-physical.
When your energy is intact, you don’t need to ‘manage’ who or what’s around you.
At all.
Built into your complete trust in, and devotion to, yourself and the truth of each moment - is your true standard - which is energetic; not condition-based, and THAT is what’s actually applied to all people and circumstances.
Not with words.
With your energy.
Without even trying because it’s integral to who you are.
From that place, you’re only available for something very specific.
Something you never have to name or explain or even think about.
It just is.
And those who don’t meet that very specific standard in that particular moment, don’t even make it through.
Not because you created a threshold or checked them at the door.
But because there actually IS a threshold.
And those who can’t withstand it,
just turn and walk away.
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The Mandatory Crucible (An Essay)
in Human Dynamics, Lovers, Essays, Jesus Christ, Long
If you sacrifice yourself for another,
it is not love.
If another sacrifices themselves for you,
it is not love.
But sacrificing all that is not you,
all that is not true,
is the mandatory crucible you must perpetually face
if you are to experience the purest and the deepest love
both within and beyond.
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Sex Won't Do It (An Essay)
in Most Popular, SEX, Human Dynamics, Zero Point, Lovers, Essays, Wee, Grid
Physical sex on its own doesn’t do it for those who constantly make love with life from the depth of their being.
They require and have the capacity to experience the truth and edge of SEX at all times,
in all ways,
beyond the physical.
Even when it includes the physical.
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You Don't Want To Be Saved (An Essay)
You don’t actually want to be saved.
You want to be the Master of yourself
and the domain that’s housed by YOU.
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A New Baseline (An Essay)
eroticism
freedom
truth
power
can only be self-sourced
and…
once that’s your baseline
(as it should be — it’s your natural state)
then everything else
including kink
is an extension
and expression
of this
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Distorted vs Clean Love (An Essay)
in Human Dynamics, Makin Moves, Lovers, Essays, Uncluttered, Long
If neither of you are in your power, it’s not pure, clean love because it’s based on illusion / need / dependency / standards / etc (aka distortions), and not on the truth of each moment / movement, which can only be discerned and honoured from said place of power.
It’s a poor facsimile that doesn’t even come close to the level of intimacy experienced by two people who are truly living in integrity and are thereby (distortion/clutter) free to choose truth in every moment, regardless of the other.
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The Ultimatum (An Essay)
in Human Dynamics, Essays, Lovers, Long
Giving someone an ultimatum (an attempt to control, and get your (perceived) needs met through, another) is a misperception that something external to you must change before you can feel a particular way, or do a particular thing, instead of owning your own power and operating / choosing / speaking from there.
This counterfeit method of getting what you think you want will not get you what you actually want (not even close… or even possible from that place), even if the other person chooses to put you before themselves and surrenders to this energetic manipulation.
What you seek and are reaching for is inside of you.
It has nothing to do with another.
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Clean Love (An Essay)
in Most Popular, Human Dynamics, Makin Moves, Lovers, Essays, Pain, Long
doing something
anything
for or with a person
because you feel guilty or pressured
because you feel bad / sorry / pity for them
because you think they need saving
because you believe it’s your job to ‘help’ them
because you can’t withstand their pain
because ‘it’s just what you do when…’
is not pure
it’s not love
it’s an ulterior motive to ‘get’ something from the experience
(validation / purpose / worthiness / love / security etc)
and to alleviate the tension inside of you
for your own comfort; not theirs
but when you do something
anything
for or with a person
because it is what you truly want to do
knowing that no one needs saving
knowing that you’re not here to ‘help’ through contrived, measured, self-serving, pat-on-the-back receiving, recordable / postable actions and mindless obedience to the status quo…
but through the raw truth of your being and your devotion to the pulse of YOU
(and nothing is more ‘helpful’ than that)
knowing that another person’s pain is not bigger than you
or them
and that it’s not a problem to be fixed
at all
knowing that what you do or don’t do in any given moment is perfect
despite appearances
regardless of convention
no matter how another perceives it
simply because it’s what’s true right now…
then it is clean
then it is love
because it doesn’t require you or another to abandon / shrink / dilute / change / over-extend a thing for the ‘other’
or to maintain the delusion that such a thing is required to show love or to be loved in the first place
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The Anger is on You (An Essay)
The extent of your anger, frustration and resentment towards another, is in direct proportion to the extent you’ve compromised, denied, silenced or abandoned yourself ‘for the sake’ of said person / relationship, which was never required, but chosen, for your perceived benefit (and to your actual detriment); not theirs.
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Living Truth (An Essay)
He and I don’t talk about the energetics.
We live them.
He doesn’t read a word I write.
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