Mentoring

Before You Buy The Program (An Essay)

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If you’re paying a money / relationship / whatever the fuck coach…

whose ‘job’ it is to ‘help’ you

‘clear your blocks’

(you don’t have any)

‘see your worth’

(not a thing)

‘heal’ you-name-it

(never gonna happen)

‘get’ / ‘attract’ / ‘manifest’

(i can’t even)

the money

the relationship

whatever the fuck

using whatever methods / systems / programs / containers

they’ve concocted or replicated…

just notice that they, too,

are starting and operating from a false premise.

They, too,

are buying into

(and benefitting from)

your story

that something is lacking

(the money / the relationship / the self-worth / whatever the fuck)

and they are selling you a ‘solution’ to this perceived lack,

this perceived ‘problem’

or else why would they have ‘created’ a way to ‘fix’ it?

To ‘change’ your ‘reality’ from A to B?

(effectively buying into the same illusion as you - #matchymatchy)

Why else would such a thing be necessary…

if they knew,

and you knew,

that you are innately sovereign and powerful.

And that you don’t need add-ons or a guidebook in being who you are and moving naturally from that,

which ‘gets’ you all the things without needing to rely on a thing.

Why would they be selling a program if they knew and you knew that there’s nothing wrong or missing.

That it’s all right here, right now.

That you have it all.

That you are all of it.

That at best, the ‘tools’ and ‘processes’ and ‘gurus’ are what you use to finally give yourself permission to be what you already are without them.

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Owing 52K In Taxes (An Essay)

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“I was expecting and saving for 20-25k in taxes but certainly didn’t expect that to be doubled. But it didn’t phase me and still doesn’t. There was even something hot about seeing the money go. And though I have had to cool it on the bigger spontaneous purchases, I have not changed anything else about my lifestyle. I still feel wealthy. And love seeing the account growing again.”

The above message I received today is what REAL ‘money freedom’ looks and feels like.

Having ZERO hang ups or illusions about money so that you’re cool no matter what and you know how to ‘make’ whatever the fuck you want.

This hottie owed 52K in taxes this year and she had 56K between two accounts and paid her debt it in full (HOT) and didn’t fucking flinch over how ‘little’ remained (SUPER HOT).

THIS is what MY work is about.

FREEDOM. ON. EVERY. LEVEL.

Because ‘money freedom’ is not about fucking money.

And yes, it includes money.

But it’s not about the accumulation of it.

And yes, you can stack as many dollars as you like.

REAL ‘money freedom’ is about the truth of it.

It’s about seeing through your own bullshit that’s in the way of it moving as freely and as naturally as it’s meant to.

And feeling so certain in your power and ability to generate it,

that even if all that money ‘goes away’ for a hot second,

it’s no biggie because you know how money ACTUALLY works so you never fear ‘losing’ it or not having ‘enough’ of it.

If this is how you want to exist,

(and you already do when you have zero shit in the way)

and how you wanna play with dollars,

(and everything else in your life)  

and true freedom is your North Star,

(not the fucking money)

I’m the bitch you wanna talk to.

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Don't Hire A Mentor Unless... (An Essay)

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A while back I was messaging with a hottie who was telling me about her experience with a mentor we both know.

And she mentioned how it didn’t ‘work’.

But like…

only one thing actually works and you can’t get that ‘from’ a mentor or anyone else.

And typically those who pay to work with mentors (at least from what I’ve seen in the space I’ve moved through and out of),

are those who already don’t trust themselves and are looking outside of themselves for answers,

and they are hoping that this next mentorship / person / course / whatever the fuck will be that golden ticket that can override the work that only they can do.

But no one can do it for you.

No one’s ‘paradigm’ can save you from yourself if what you truly want is to be free of yourself and of all paradigms.

#theultimatemission

You’re either meeting and facing and working with what’s already inside of you in each moment or you’re not.

There are no tricks or tools or techniques that can help you do that specific thing.

But there are plenty of them if you want to feel like you’re doing something along the way.

And I’m stating the obvious here: no one on this planet is responsible for what you do or don’t do inside of yourself and with your life.

If you were / are leaning on, and looking to, another person,

instead of erecting, and daring to look inside, yourself,

you’re going to end up disappointed.

(but only until you see through why you felt the need to do that in the first place, and then you will see that it was absolutely perfect)

So…

If you are hiring someone to ‘get’ something,

(not the vibe)

that is your first clue that you’re signing up for shit that won’t do shit for you except be an experience that you will look back on to realize that you abandoned yourself and ignored your knowing because you thought someone else knew or had something you don’t.

You were looking for permission to trust what you already know.

And to do what you already wanted to do.

But you don’t need a mentor for that.

And…

Paying to play with someone for the fun and the thrill and the pleasure and the truth of it…

is another thing entirely.

DO THAT.

And…

it’s not ultimately a problem that you looked, or continue to look, to others for what is already available inside of you.

Because eventually and inevitably,

you won’t do that anymore.

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Frame And Submit (An Essay)

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Most people want the thing (whatever it is) without actually having to submit to themselves.

Moment-by-moment.

Not just once or once in a while.

That’s why they do / try all the things to ‘get’ the thing EXCEPT the only thing that works.

They’ll try everything BUT that.

Well…

that’s not even accurate.

You can’t ‘try’ to submit.

You either do it or you don’t.

And most people don’t because it’s wild as fuck and the noise or the silence is too much to withstand.

They want the comfort of the known while craving the unknown and then curse the gods for what they can’t ‘get’.

And…

Your current and forevermore work is to erect yourself enough to frame every aspect of yourself and your life so that each piece is clean and truly sourced from you.

From truth;

not from compensation.

And most people won’t do that.

Many don’t even care to do that.

But if you’re hungry for the potent purity that is YOU,

the only way to ‘get’ IT,

is to submit.

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Don't Delete That Post (An Essay)

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i had a call with a hottie who made an offer online

a TRUE offer

not an offer to ‘get’

just truth being expressed in a moment

and…

this was an absolute edge for her

because she had ‘exposed’ herself by doing so

and when ‘nothing happened’

(impossible)

when her so-called ‘bold’ offer

(bold only to her because of said edge in that moment)

wasn’t responded to right away by her audience

(silly human thinking it knows the when or the how and thinking that something is ‘wrong’ if things don’t ‘happen’ in a specific way on some arbitrary timeline decided by the very small human mind)

she felt insecure and anxious about her offer

(made in a moment of truth, remember — making it the ultimate success regardless of next)

and she wanted to delete her post

(naturally)

but if she was on a call with me of all people

what she actually wanted was to ride her edge even further

so i told her that the only thing she needs to do is be with her (temporary) internal chaos and do what needs to be done until it’s still inside

because the ‘issue’ isn’t the offer or the ‘lack’ of response from her audience

the opportunity is to be bigger than the internal noise and external appearances

to not move while the mind moves and while nothing seems to be moving

to not act in response to the chatter of an unharnessed mind that has no idea what the fuck is actually going on

to be in charge of what’s happening ‘in here’ regardless of externals

(and the mind is an external)

and…

she was ready

she stayed still

she didn’t delete her offer

and…

she made her biggest sale in business so far

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P.S. If she, once still inside, STILL chose to delete her post, that would have been perfect and true; not reactionary and compensatory. And, if she deleted it at the start because of her anxiety, she would not have ‘lost’ a thing because everything is used to refine even further. She could have posted it again the next day (or even an hour later), with or without a tweak, or right after our call from a more stable place. Get it? It’s never about the thing itself. It’s about what you’re doing inside yourself with whatever is or isn’t happening.

The $1700 Edge (One Minute Clip)

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Her: “I’m testing the boundaries at the moment. I’m working with another teacher who you know, and just before I made an offer on this MasterClass, I had a session with her, and she had tested me and said, “Okay. Well, what do you feel comfortable offering?” kind of thing, and I felt like I handled it quite well. But I really struggled when it came to yours because there was nobody holding my hand, but I pushed myself with it as well. You were like, “Offer what’s true.” and I sat there with it and then I felt for my edges and I got to this point and I was like, “Oh, my God. I’m gonna do this thing on top of this other thing. I just did that and then I’m gonna do this”. And I was like but this is the only thing that feels right. Like I can’t, I couldn’t offer you anything else. There was nothing else I could give you that would be true. And I was just like okay, this is where I gotta go.”

Mandy Bites On Mentoring

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  1. My work is not for everyone. It’s barely for anyone. But for those whom it was made, nothing else will do. 

  2. If you want or need something from a call with me, it’s not time for a call with me.

  3. I had to go beyond all of them.

  4. It’s all your own (un)doing.

  5. Tools keep you stuck.

  6. If you’re searching, you’re not ready. When you’re ready, IT is here. (Peep The IT Collection)

  7. Anything you rely on will be stripped from you. You may as well strip yourself.

  8. Those who come to you, just know. Because you know. And they want to dance with that knowing.

  9. It takes so little to play with me. But most are filled with so much.

  10. If you’re not ready to off yourself, I’m of no use to you.

  11. Most can’t ride, let alone fly.

  12. In the land of energetics, it's every hottie for themselves.

  13. How can you command a thing when you can’t command yourself.

  14. Don't aim to help others. Master yourself. This 'helps' them most of all.

  15. Rise through the ranks within yourself.

  16. Your existence is confronting to those who’ve yet to face themselves.

  17. Almost no one wants to go all the way.

  18. It doesn’t matter why someone isn’t ready. Or if they will ever be. If they can’t walk through that door with you, that’s all you need to know.

  19. People see me when they’re ready to see themselves.

  20. You use and teach tools and processes because you don’t trust yourself enough to go rogue.

  21. The only ‘tool’ you actually need is custom-built into each moment.

  22. I don’t ‘support’ anyone. They’re powerful. They’re grown. And wired to live from truth.

  23. I blow shit up endlessly. Because I love you and I love me.

  24. Stripping myself brings the naked ones to me.

  25. The world doesn’t need saving. Nor do you or anyone else. #sorrynotsorryjesus

  26. You’re not special. Your story’s not special. You’re a living god like everyone else.

  27. The work is to do the work until nothing remains. Until nothing can move you from you.

  28. Masters exist beyond the tribe.

  29. Their maps can’t take you HOME.

  30. You don’t actually want to be saved. You want to be the Master of yourself and the domain that’s housed by You.

  31. If you’re in a container, you’re being contained.

  32. Mindset work takes you even deeper into the programming (illusion) you’re attempting to free yourself from by doing mindset work.

  33. Holding space holds it in place.

  34. My work is not inclusive. I speak to the bold. The brave. The hungry (for death).

  35. All I want is to destroy you. Strip you bare and leave you for dead.

  36. Self-Mastery is the process of getting kicked out of the nest repeatedly. There’s no settling into it. There’s no once and for all. There’s just this moment and how you choose to meet it.

  37. Masters don’t need to be pushed or kicked. They willingly jump off the cliff.

  38. I’m playing in a new arena because the old one’s much too small.

  39. It’s either me or your shit. Never both. It’s always up to you.

  40. Don’t look to me for how to be. You already know what to do.

  41. Them: “What do you do for a living?” Me: “Float through space.”

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Two For One (An Essay)

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I had a call with a hottie who I soon realized was nowhere close to being ready for a call with me.

She was committed to her stories.

She didn’t actually want to be free.

So I interrupted her mental masturbation by letting her know this isn’t the work I do, and I ended the Zoom call.

She called me on Messenger a moment later.

And I had no problem picking up because ‘new moment, new everything’ in Mandyland.

I was happy to start again.

But she was still there; not here.

So I ended that call, too.

*sends a cheeky new invoice*

Because that is the work I do.

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Touché, Bitch (An Essay)

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Talking with a friend in a relationship that’s been the biggest NO forfuckingever…

Her: “But I love his family.”

Me: “More than you love yourself?”

Her: “Touché, bitch.”

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P.S. If you’ve never referred to me as ‘bitch’ (not ‘a bitch’ — although that would still be a compliment), do you even love me?

And if I haven’t called you ‘bitch’ while hyped up in a private convo / message / work call, either celebrating you or calling you out, do I even love you?

Of course.

But it’s still fun to ponder.