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Having a traumatic childhood doesn’t absolve you from taking full responsibility for yourself and your life as an adult.
Many of us grew up in hellish environments and circumstances.
And?
So?
How long are you going to use that as an excuse for how you and things are?
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You starve it by not feeding it.
Inwardly, that’s what you do.
“The ignored guest quickly leaves.”
So give it no reason to stay.
You can entertain the chaos.
The insanity.
The mind.
Go into the depths of hell.
Then post about your dark night.
Tell others about that ‘necessary’ initiation.
The ‘generational trauma’ that ‘lives in your bones’.
Be commended on your strength for ‘facing the beast’.
(aka enduring yourself at the hands of yourself and calling it by another name)
Sure, you can do that.
But you could also not.
You feed the pain because you get off on it.
When you’re done getting off,
it’s gone.
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when you perpetually self-abandon
the denser it gets
and when you do this over an extended period of time
that density
that was once only energetic
becomes matter
becomes ‘illness’ (both mental and physical)
because your system was not designed for such a deviation
it was designed to let you know all you need to know
to remain clean and intact
forevermore
so when you choose to ignore that knowing
over and over and over again
your brilliant system will turn up the volume until it just can’t be ignored
until you have no choice but to honour what you know and have always known
so even your ‘sickness’ (both mental and physical)
is still your system being brilliant as fuck
it never fails you
even when you ‘fail’ (deny) yourself
it speaks to you
for as long as it takes
until you finally listen
and choose to obey
and once you do
the ‘sickness’ dissolves
because it only arose
to point the way home
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No one has the power
to pull you into the lower,
let alone keep you there.
Your choice to leave the higher,
takes you away from who you are.
It also leads you right back home.
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You know exactly how to clean up your inner shit.
If you’re not doing that,
it’s only because you don’t want to — yet.
Just like your place.
If it’s a cluttered shitshow,
it’s not because you can’t clean it up.
You just don’t want to — yet.
And when you do,
you will.
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Most would rather have another cater / adapt to their dysfunction(s) / delusion(s) than to do the work necessary to correct it themselves.
And most would rather do that for another,
to avoid their own discomfort
of having to take that same level of responsibility
for their own deficiencies.
#letsstaysmalltogether
#fillinthegapsifyouloveme
#thatswhattheycalllove
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you would never…
have to talk about your relationship
have issues in your relationship
have to work on your relationship
#workingonitneverworks
if you were both in complete integrity
and fully in your power already
#relationshipgoalsamiright
you’d just be in your relationship
doing the blessed thing
the most natural thing in the world
#loveiswhoyouare
‘problems’ only arise because you haven’t been speaking / living / being truth
you haven’t been taking full responsibility for your side of the court
you have been looking to
and waiting on
the other for something that’s not theirs to give
and that accumulation of bullshit creates ‘problems’
as it should and as it must
not because ‘all couples have problems’
but because ‘all people who aren’t living in integrity and look outside of themselves for something / anything’ — have problems
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I had a call with a hottie who I soon realized was nowhere close to being ready for a call with me.
She was committed to her stories.
She didn’t actually want to be free.
So I interrupted her mental masturbation by letting her know this isn’t the work I do, and I ended the Zoom call.
She called me on Messenger a moment later.
And I had no problem picking up because ‘new moment, new everything’ in Mandyland.
I was happy to start again.
But she was still there; not here.
So I ended that call, too.
*sends a cheeky new invoice*
Because that is the work I do.
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if the only thing keeping you together is your unnatural attachment to one another
(and all attachment is unnatural)
made possible only through the sticky and accumulated shit you have both brought to the relationship table
things like your respective and shared pasts
your so-called traumas
your personal needs and desires
your ongoing focus on yourself and the other
then you’re not yet truly together
because of all that shit in the way
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“And with everything happening in the world right now…”
As if it’s new.
Or different.
Or exclusive to now.
Name one time in the history of ever when this wasn’t the case.
When things weren’t happening.
When insanity wasn’t the norm.
I’ll wait.
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If you can’t see the absolute perfection of a ‘bad’ experience,
even the ‘worst’ experience of your life,
then you haven’t gone deep enough.
You haven’t extracted your gold
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When you’ve deviated from the truth and natural movements of your being (a complete betrayal to your system), the only way to live with that internal split is to distract yourself with self-created 'issues’ that would not exist (and ultimately don't) had you remained in your power (your natural state) in the first place.
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We’re all fucked up.
Who cares?
The human condition(ing) makes it so.
And…
We’re all perfectly intact despite the fuckedupness.
It’s both.
Human + being.
And I don’t know one human who actually has all their shit together (whatever that means).
Not one.
But I know that every being exists perfectly and beautifully beyond the human shit.
And that every human touches and experiences even more of their brilliant being, both through and because of it.
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The other isn’t the reason you get triggered.
Your experience of the other is just showing you where you’re at.
And it’s perfectly highlighting what you’ve yet to contend with.
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You can’t have an expectation / demand / condition for how or when another person should behave for or in response to you…
and call that love.
You can’t point to what you’ve done for them (gross) in comparison to what you think they’ve yet to reciprocate (eww) as a way to justify why they should now perform / abandon / contort themselves for you like you clearly did for them (why else would you be keeping score)…
and call that love.
That’s manipulation.
Control.
Twisted, sticky, icky shit.
If it’s not given freely,
truthfully,
lovingly,
unconditionally…
why would you even want it?
You’d rather a performance than the real deal?
You’d rather have it the way your ego scripted it than the way it actually is?
You’d rather another do for you what you’re not willing to do for yourself?
Absurd.
People can move and exist as they wish.
You’re free to do the same.
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Human: runs from the present / dwells on the non-existent past / fears the illusory future / perpetually resists what IS (and suffers because of it) / consistently holds back truth / avoids making the true move / believes things, others, and life need(s) to be a certain way in order to feel okay / creates and then lives within endless, baseless, utterly insane stories / denies its sovereignty / blames the world and others and pretends to be a victim / takes zero responsibility for the creation and quality of its own experience / looks out instead of in…
Being: “And you wonder why you feel like shit?”
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The thing about being energetically erect and intact (one’s natural state), and not playing (making moves) unless and until it’s still, is that it perfectly fucks with whatever matter I’m currently holding on to.
The exact shit that’s here to be burned by the fire of ME.
It also perfectly fucks with the shit of whoever I’m playing with.
If there are any strings of attachment (hoping / waiting / needing / trying / expecting / victimizing / or whatever other bullshit that needs to go), I don’t touch it.
But if I feel turned on despite and because of the matter, it means that it’s ready to get fucked with and I’m the bitch to do it.
So I play where it’s most alive.
Where I sense no limits, no restrictions, no actual end in sight.
Just a wide-open space to dive into unobstructed.
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“How do I?” is sourced from a lie.
It implies that something is wrong / lacking and clearly needs fixing.
You think you need to lose the weight / make the money / get the partner / overcome the condition (whatever the fuck) to feel / be / do / have A, B, C.
But you don’t.
Be HERE.
Right NOW.
And do whatever you’re being called to do in each moment.
Illusory problem(s) solved.
But because you can’t handle the beauty and simplicity of being present in the moment,
or the responsibility of both listening to and honouring your innate brilliance,
or the potency of the fire that comes from being THAT close and devoted to YOU regardless of externals,
and you’re hell-bent on fighting against what IS because of your idea of, and preference for, how it ‘should’ be,
you take the long and completely ineffective way around the truth and power of who you are.
Any attempt to ‘fix’ what’s inherently not a ‘problem’ in the first place, cannot be sustained because it’s both sourced from, and being overlayed with, a fallacy.
Creating an endless loop of shit that never does the trick.
You think it’s about the food / the money / the body / the babe.
But it’s only ever about you vs YOU, which shows up in all the things.
And…
When you begin to see through it,
when you get to the place where you KNOW you’re good regardless of your size / your bank account / a relationship / your health (whatever the fuck),
and you know that YOU are bigger than (and the creator of) ALL those things,
(because THAT is the absolute fucking truth)
THEN you are free from the energetic gridlock that’s been keeping all that shit stuck like a mutherfucker.
THEN you get to experience what has always been on the other side of that illusory jail you’ve kept yourself in this whole time.
But until you figure that out and get to that place,
your perfectly orchestrated externals are going to do their brilliant magic to show you that what you seek (and already are) cannot be found within any of them.
Every door ‘out there’ is gonna close until you finally open the only door that matters with the key you’ve always had.
Man, I just love how that works.
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