No one loses from your NO.
What they get is what’s most true.
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Clean vs Muddy Moves (An Essay)
unless and until a move is crisp and clean
stripped of a reaction
an agenda
or another person in mind
stripped of the need (and all the words)
to explain
to justify
to prove
to get
to build a bridge where none is required
to soften or avoid the razor’s edge of truth
until you reach that specific point
the zero point
where nothing matters at all
the power and impact of that move is diluted and effectively made limp
turning it into yet another messy bit amongst other messy bits
blending in
not standing out
so what’s the fucking point?
that trying-but-not-hitting-the-spot move
that tainted / muddy / laced-with-matter move
that spilling-over-because-you-have-collapsed move
won’t do a damn thing except keep that mess in place
because a weak and sloppy move is not sharp enough
it’s not potent enough
and it certainly can’t be felt deeply enough
to rattle
to collapse
to erect what needs erecting
it can’t pierce the veil
like a clean move can
a move that’s made
because it’s true
not for anyone
or anything
else
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It Doesn't Matter Why (Mandy Bite)
it doesn’t matter why
a NO is a NO
or who or what it involves
the NO is to the energy
and energy never lies
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You Already Know That Ain't It (An Essay)
You can feel when something is true and when it’s laced with something false.
If there is hesitation, confusion, muddiness, defensiveness…
a reaction to something or someone instead of a stand alone work of art…
there’s some cleaning up to do.
On your end.
Not theirs.
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The Limp Game of BDSM (An Essay)
True Dominance and Submission is about the energetic tension that can only come from a deeply powerful state.
And since most can’t generate, hold, or withstand such a thing,
they use force, rules, rituals and tools
to (over) compensate.
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Tender Bear (Mandy Bite)
It’s always the most tender
where you hold the most matter.
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Don't Touch It (Mandy Bite)
Why manage something you shouldn’t be fucking with at all?
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Dirty Diana (Mandy Bite)
Self-Induced Nausea (Mandy Bite)
in Energetics, Mandy Bites, Health, Pain, Human Dynamics, Lovers
Fresh And Clean (Mandy Bite)
Your True Security (Mandy Bite)
If you need the job (money) or the relationship (person) or the home (thing)
or anything else in your life to remain as it is
in order to feel ‘secure’…
you’re not secure.
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Destruction In The Sheets (Mandy Bite)
If your shit can be fucked with by another making moves, your shit clearly needs a good fucking.
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Just Do It (Mandy Bite)
Don’t announce it.
Just do it.
They’ll get the message loud and clear.
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Legs Spread (Mandy Bite)
You Don't Need Closure (An Essay)
When you let a situation ‘bleed out’ (come to its natural and inevitable conclusion), you choose not to touch it because it doesn’t require an intervention.
It’s not avoidance.
It’s knowing through discernment.
It’s staying where it’s true.
Not remaining where it’s flat.
And…
It’s not true that you need ‘closure’.
To wrap things up.
To contrive an end point, just so you can say it’s done.
It’s done the moment it flatlines.
Anything beyond that is just more of that.
No need to state the obvious.
Or bring it back to life.
Just stay where it’s most alive,
as everything dead falls away.
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You Don't Have Issues (An Essay)
You don’t have a money issue.
A health issue.
A relationship issue.
Any issue at all.
You have whatever is brought to the surface through whatever meaning you’ve projected onto whatever is happening or not happening with your account, your health, your relationships, your whatever.
Not an issue.
An invitation.
It’s not about having or not having a certain amount of money.
It’s not about having or not having a certain measure of health.
It’s not about having or not having the relationship(s) of your supposed dreams.
It’s about facing and transmuting every bit of constriction / density / matter / illusion that shows up as you navigate every single facet of life - including your finances, your health, your relationships and all the rest.
It’s not about the category.
It’s about the congestion.
And the area in which you feel the most congested / restricted / powerless, is where you think there’s an issue (naturally), but ultimately it’s just the spot that’s the ripest to fuck with (look at, challenge, and ultimately see through).
It’s your own self-generated playground to unclog, free up, and own your damn power already.
So let go of the concept of there being an issue.
There’s no such thing.
There’s just energy moving freely or temporarily getting jammed up.
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No Greater Pain (Mandy Bite)
You want to leave because you’ve yet to fully own YOU.
And there’s no greater pain than that.
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Victim + Saviour Bullshit (An Essay)
The impulse to ‘save’ someone from their own suffering by ‘helping’, ‘fixing’, ‘holding space’ or filling in the gap - actually affirms and prolongs it.
When you see yourself and others as you and they truly are - innately sovereign, self-governing and free - you wouldn’t dream of interrupting and slowing down the necessary burning that’s unfolding as a result of what they (as innately sovereign, self-governing, free beings) have created for themselves.
But that is precisely what you do when you say or do something from the misperception of ‘poor them’, and buy into the delusion that you have what they need or possess something they don’t.
This is also why you, at your very core, don’t want to be ‘saved’ (impossible anyways) when you’re in the shit.
What you actually want is to be the Master of yourself and the domain that’s housed by you.
And you can’t experience that if you still believe in victims and saviours.
There are none.
There is just you and what you choose to do or not do in this and every moment with each and every person as the innately sovereign, self-governing and free being that you are.
Dropping saviour mode is not about being a heartless jerk as you watch another suffer.
It’s about seeing them clearly (powerful as fuck) and seeing what’s happening clearly (illusion running the show) and only doing what you genuinely feel pulled to do from that clean / clear spot of knowing; not from an illusory victim / saviour stance.
Because the only reason you’d ever jump into saviour mode in the first place is because you actually believe in victims and you’re arrogant and delusional enough to believe that you can actually save them.
#isaidwhatisaid
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The Energetic Flatline (An Essay)
in Energetics, Makin Moves, Human Dynamics, Essays, Lovers, Death
The end point of any experience occurs when it feels flat / dead / empty / void of any charge.
Which has nothing to do with the person or the situation itself - it’s just the energetic cue that it’s time to play elsewhere (not necessarily physically) because a new scene is about to take place.
Yet most stay where it’s energetically dead with the hopes of bringing an expired experience back to life.
Imagining that something or someone matters more than honouring the current truth.
Hence, the flatline.
Because the end / the command / the brilliant move was missed.
And…
To ignore the cue of right now,
for any reason,
for anyone,
is to immediately diminish the quality of your experience.
Which is why it’s better to seamlessly move from one activated moment to the next by not hopping off the ride, than to try to bring something dead back to life.
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The Anomaly (An Essay)
In complete stillness, what surrounds you is a vortex that spits out almost everything and everyone.
Matter is destroyed on contact.
Making it nearly impossible for anyone to make it through the tunnel unscathed, if at all.
The level of purity (lack of density) required for another to reach that still point of you, is immense.
And incredibly rare.
Making it that much more potent and extraordinary when an anomaly enters the scene.
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