When anyone asks me for relationship advice (which happened last night), I'm like WHY. That's like asking a vegan how to cook a steak. Not saying I don't give my two cents anyways, but what do I know about romantic relationships beyond successfully staying out of something that's not right for me. Ask me about that. How not to wind up in a situation you knew wasn't gonna work from the start or how to get the fuck out of something you've finally realized is not worthy of you. I'm really good at that.
I'm a pro at getting the hell outta dodge lickity split when I know someone's not a match for me.
Life's too precious to stay in anything that doesn't add light to your world and I'm proud of the fact that I'm not entangled in something that reduces my light in any way. That's by choice. I created that intentionally by deliberately choosing the conditions necessary for me to shine. And I continue to do that by making my well-being my top priority as I navigate the world and my interactions with others.
For me to genuinely care for myself means that I say no to 90%, maybe even 95%, of what's offered to me in life or from others. I only say yes to the FULL YES things. And there aren't a whole lot of them. I don't have the time, energy or desire to manage the maybes and the not quites. Who does that even serve? No one. It only drains and clogs the system.
I'm not here to make other people feel good at the expense of me not feeling good. Nor am I here to feel good at the expense of others. I'm here to feel good. Period. Which has nothing to do with anyone else but can also include them. Make sense?
I don't feel like I owe anybody anything in this life, to be quite honest. I just live the best life I can while remaining true to what I value, which is independent from other people's opinions or expectations of me. Whatever I give is freely given and not by guilt or obligation so you can trust that if I'm saying yes to you in any capacity, it's a full yes.
But back to love. I know what I want and what I deserve and I don't waste moments of my life building my future with anything less than that. I may die without having ever fallen in love with another, but so what. I also might meet someone who rocks my world in every way until my very last day. Either way I'm still living and sleeping with an awesome human on the regular. C'est moi. Plus I've got my swanky new iPhone, so it's a win/win.
Who knows what life has in store for any of us? Not me. Not you. Not anyone.
But we have this day and this moment and it's up to us to embrace and move through it as best as we can no matter what our current situation is. Single. Attached. It's all the same because it's all happening right now and YOU are the only one responsible for how you feel and what you're accepting and welcoming into (or removing from) your sweet bubble.
And my stance on things is that if you're making your relationship with yourself (and/or your higher power if that's what you're into) the most important relationship in your life, well then I think you're gonna be just fine no matter who you decide to welcome into (or boot out of) your life.
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