I feel free as a bird today and super, super happy!
I didn't go out to celebrate my last day of work as planned last night because I was more inspired to clean and talk to a few beloveds on the phone and share my joy. I also got a great sleep and woke up with a smile and a ton of energy!
And today I have the bonus of having the place to myself. My joy! Which means Paige got to leave with my OPUS card, my winter coat, and my beautiful new cardigan since I don't need any of them while I'm here working my magic.
That's the benefit of cohabitation. Shared resources. Shared outfits. Saved money. Solitude when the other is gone. Laughter while we watch Chloe and Merlin go nutty. A kinship from a 22 year history. Someone in your corner through everything you face.
As many of you know, the last thing that Paige and I ever wanted was to live with anyone, let alone each other again, after tasting the beautiful freedom of living on our own for a year and a half.
But as life would have it, shit happened and we are so grateful that it did.
Living together in Montreal is better than we could have imagined. It's great being roommates with someone who gets you and can tolerate your ways, and also someone who shares the same sense of humor and the same history.
Better still, it's amazing being in the same city (and so far from your old home) with someone that knows you so well and has been there through all the ups and downs of your life.
Paige and I are quite similar in our need for space and silence and kitties, and we have the added bonus of getting to connect with our best friend during the times that we do want to talk.
I imagine that when we get our two bedroom this year, things will be even better because it will be OUR place - not her childhood home and not me living in hers - it'll be ours. A deliberate choice to live with one another even after all these years.
Isn't that beautiful?
Paige told me yesterday that her friends asked how she could handle living with her mom, and she said it's because I'm awesome and I'm not like other moms.
Paige and I have something very special.
Our relationship has always been based on transparency, open communication, mutual support and respect. Except for the times that I eat her food and she uses my stuff without permission. We both know that's not cool and we are getting better over time, but that's the extent of our challenges with one another. Well that and the fact that I lose my shit when she leaves a mess where I've just made things spotless.
We are both works in progress and we genuinely want to see other happy and succeeding in life. And for now, living together helps us achieve those things in our beautiful city.
I love that Paige supported my decision to quit work last month when I felt that I couldn't do one more day of it (surprisingly I stayed a few weeks longer), even though that choice would have affected her as well in terms of my ability to pay rent if I didn't line something else up within a short period of time. But all she cared about was my well-being.
And I love that she fully supports my decision to take the French Immersion program for two months and isn't worried about if or how I'll figure out the money situation out after that fact. She just wants me to do what's best for me and she's happy that I'm happy.
So today is a great day.
It's my first full day of my next great chapter and I'm so, so grateful to be spending it on my own.
With love and a beaming smile,
"This is amazing Mandy! I am so happy that you and Paige are living together, it was meant to be! From the day Paige was born you two are like soul mates! Mother and daughter soul mates!" Gayle Jones
"Home is never locked down to one town, place or apartment - home is where the heart is, and a home with more than one heart is a good place to be." Marc Richard
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