After writing the status update below, a fellow on my Facebook list had some questions about the subject and I wanted to share our discussion here in case it resonates with anyone.
Kelly Hornblower: The difficult part (for me) is choosing the people who guide (or help) the path best. I'm so glad to still be a friend of yours on Facebook, as you help point the right way.
Me: I’m glad we’re friends on Facebook as well! And thank you. I’m glad you find something helpful in what I share. What I would suggest though, is to trust yourself and how you feel. If something feels good and expansive and resonates with you, that’s your cue that someone is speaking your current truth. Whether that’s a post or a book or interview etc. I believe we all have our own answers and life shows us where to go by putting things in our path that feel like a YES. Always follow your current yes and it will lead you to the next one.
Kelly: I apparently need better connection with my inner self. What seems to be a yes in many ways, winds up biting me pretty hard, fairly often.
Me: Ahh. You’re right. It would mean you need a better connection to yourself, and probably a better awareness of what you ultimately want and deserve - beyond the moment of the yes. There are plenty of things that might feel like a yes in the moment but it would be a no for future me so I act accordingly. During those times it doesn’t feel like a no anyways. It feels like a yes to the bigger goal. For example, me saying no to a one-night stand is me saying yes to having the partnership I truly desire with someone.
Kelly: Is it just experience that teaches the difference between a yes now that is a future no, and a yes that is a yes future-wise as well?
Me: Yes I think so. When you get burned enough times, you smarten up. But also like I said in the actual status update, when you know what your goals are, it becomes a lot easier. So I think it’s a mix of getting clear on that and also experiencing what isn’t working so you can change your method. We get smarter every round.
Kelly: We really do, hottie. We really do.
(Art by Kelly Maker)