I recently enjoyed a lovely, ephemeral enchantment with a tasty fellow who was in town for a bit, and after hearing about what happened and seeing what we look like together, a few girlfriends said, “It’s too bad he lives so far away.” But this connection was aided by that fact, and probably would not have unfolded in the same way if he lived here.
Brief, intense connections are heavenly to me. I actually prefer them and I’m more inclined to connect knowing that someone is just passing through. I love the vitality that comes from that. It brings everything into sharper focus. It makes everything more delicious. And if you read my book, The Poet & The Butterfly: An Intimate Dialogue, you’d understand that part of me.
P&B would not have happened had Keveen not lived in France. It happened because he’d be returning home soon enough, so we were intent on enjoying the rare, extraordinary experience while it lasted.
I don’t concern myself with what follows yummy moments with yummy men because these types of things aren’t even sustainable. And typically the ones you share this wild fire with aren’t the ones you should ultimately be with. That’s not their purpose.
It’s just some of life’s magic inviting you on a short, sweet, juicy ride and I’m all about that. Always. I always say yes to pure magic. And there’s plenty more where that came from.
Plus, I’ve connected with enough charismatic alphas to know what’s up (it’s rarely personal; you’re one of many they feel drawn to and captivated by), so I see it for what it is and I enjoy it while it’s there, and I take care of myself accordingly.
I didn’t leave our time together wishing for more or hoping he’d come back soon.
I left our time together feeling like, “Lucky me. I love my life so much. Look at all the juicy experiences I get to enjoy because I’m me. He was such a yummy treat.” And then I went dancing.
Something can be glorious without it needing to last or develop into something deep and meaningful.
You really can just meet a hottie at a party and hit it off right away, see him a second time for more kisses before he flies home, and call it a day.
(Art by Ina Scholte Albers)
“Yes yes yesss!!! Something can be glorious without needing to last forever!! That was the life lesson I learned in 2018 and it completely changed my life!!” Kate Hannah