So this evening I got asked out on a date while shopping for running shoes at the mall. Ended up with hot pink Asics. Anyways, the fellow noticed me when I was first there but he was too shy to speak to me (as he told me afterwards).
Then I left the mall only to get to my bike and realize I left my helmet at the store. I go back inside and he sees me again and decides this is his opportunity to strike up a conversation.
He asks me if I'm seeing anyone and if not, could he take me out sometime - even just for coffee. Said he saw me earlier and felt quite drawn to me and wanted to take a chance.
I told him that's pretty ballsy (which I admire) and wondered if he's a psycho (kept that part to myself) and said I have zero information to base such a decision on. All I know is that he's handsome (a good start) with a great smile and has more confidence than most men.
I asked him if he normally asks women out at the mall. Shocked, he said "Are you crazy?" I said "No, but I'm trying to determine if you are."
He said he's never done something like this before and it took a lot for him to do it and judging by how nervous he was I believed him. I know all about charmers - I meet them often - and he was not one of them. He didn't have any game. I don't think he knew what the hell he was doing and that's what I found endearing.
So because he was cute and totally my type, I asked him to tell me about himself. I found out he's from Montreal and his family lives there. I told him I was supposed to be in Montreal tonight but it didn't pan out. Found out other cool stuff about him and got the sense he's not a weirdo - just a sincere a guy taking a risk.
I agreed to take his number (I'm not a fan of giving mine to anyone - it's so rare that I do whether it's a guy or girl, a friend or potential date) but since my phone was dead I had no way to take it so he asked me to stay right there and he went and wrote his name and number on not one but TWO pieces of paper (one for my pocket and one for my bike pack, he said) and said he hopes something good will come of this. We shall see!
I kinda wish I had suggested we just go for that coffee right then since we were already in a public place and we probably both had time to do so, but it didn't cross my mind because the whole situation was unexpected and I needed time to process it.
Anyways, the moral of this story (especially for men) is that you don't need game. You just need to go after what you want in the best way you know how. Sincerity trumps everything. Just take a chance because he/she may actually respond to you and consider you and say yes to taking your number.
Good for that guy. Now that's living.
Also, I think Chloe just blessed my new shoes with her paw.
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P.P.S. Although I did end up texting this fellow to commend him for what he did, I ultimately decided against going on a date with him. Womp Womp.
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