When you evolve and grow, it can make those who aren’t doing that very uncomfortable.
For example, as a teen, my mom believed that my counselor at the time was brainwashing me simply because I was starting to think and stand up for myself within the family and I was learning how to set healthy boundaries with her.
She didn’t like this “new me” because it meant she would have to change if she wanted to have a relationship with me. When one person in the family makes a significant change, it affects everyone else, for better or worse. It can't be another way. And my mom resisted my growth like a mofo.
When you're in the midst of a significant change, you'll usually face resistance from those around you because most people want the things and the people around them to stay the same. That's the nature of being human.
But if you have people who are threatened and uncomfortable with you growing and improving, those people are not invested in your well-being or advancement. They care more about their own limits and comfort level.
And frankly those people should not be the ones in your immediate circle. You need and deserve people around you who want to see you win, who actually inspire you to do better, who are already on their own path of awakening and strive to live their own best life as well.
If you do have some naysayers in your life, just know that if they felt great about themselves and their life, they wouldn’t be knocking you and your choices in the first place. Allow that knowledge to inspire you even more to become the greatest version of yourself because shrinking yourself for someone who already feels so small is not an intelligent move.
Instead just stay on your course and be the living example of alignment and self-care. Who knows, one day those naysayers may come to you for guidance and support. And even if they don’t, you’ve been living your best life and have been inspiring countless others along the way.
It’s your life; not theirs. You’re doing this all for you. And if they're worthy of a spot in your life, they'll find a way to remain in it by adjusting themselves accordingly.
(Art: In Bloom by Rocio Montoya)