99% of the time when someone says I look good, I feel like I look bad (still working on that), so never underestimate the power of a compliment and the necessity for daily self-love.
You might assume a person sees what you see in them but chances are they don’t (regardless of how they come across), and maybe your kind words will turn their whole day around.
I am not lying when I say that whenever someone compliments my looks in person, I am always 100% surprised that they find me beautiful. ALWAYS. Even when it’s my daughter. You can ask her.
I’ll be like, “So and so told me I was beautiful today.” And Paige is like, “Because you are, Mom.” And then I’m like, “Really?”. This convo happened just last week. Thankfully Paige does not suffer from a distorted view of herself despite what I’ve struggled with for most of my life.
I had a few weeks this year where I genuinely felt beautiful and that was so awesome. I was in a groove and feelin’ great, but when I’m under stress like I am right now (equal parts stress and excitement for my BIG day), I tend to revert to old tapes (sigh), but I know after my presentation I’ll get back to proper inner self-care. It's still hard for me to balance that with my creative waves.
I’m sharing this not because I need or want validation on my appearance (this post isn’t about looks), but because I want to remind you that things and people aren’t always what they seem.
So if you admire something in anyone you meet or love (especially yourself), you should name it.
Tell them what they’re great at and what you appreciate about them because we all need to hear and know we have an impact and make a difference and that we are valued for who we are and what we offer.
When I am out I name everything. Complete strangers are complimented for their style, their smile, a piece of jewelry, their cute dog.
In stores and restaurants and even during calls with Fido I name the great service and thank the person for it.
I think we all crave to be seen and valued and appreciated, both by ourselves and by others. So do what you can today to offer these gifts to yourself and/or someone else because we all need and deserve that daily boost.
My dear friend, Cameilia, gave me a boost right before I wrote this. She always compliments me when I walk into the store.
And then I remember I’m not the thoughts I’ve been thinking.
"Lots of wisdom there, Mandy! Thanks for sharing and thanks for your honesty." Craig Dubecki
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