Today's reminder: If it shrinks you, it's not good for you.
I had been growing uncomfortable with certain happenings on my Facebook over the past while and recently something transpired (in addition to what I was already barely tolerating on there) and that was the last straw for me.
My initial response was to delete the app on my phone (something I've never done but it sure as hell felt good to do) and I figured it was time to take an extended breather from Facebook.
I felt like I was falling out of love with what typically brings me incredible joy (Facebook), and I was feeling less inclined to share my heart or my life with you all. I no longer felt free to be open or free to be me as fully as I'd like.
And that was my cue.
That was the indicator that something was polluting my experience on there and making me feel unsafe and unwilling to be as open and expressive as I usually am.
Then today as I layed under the sun after class, I thought to myself: "Why the hell should I be the one to go? This is MY scared space. My cyber home. My page. My happy place. It should be them that go. Not me."
So I added the app back and went through my entire list and got rid of the culprits (and also a bunch of people I've never actually engaged with on here) et voilà!
Peace and joy restored.
Sometimes we forget who or what we've collected in the past, back when we were another version of ourselves, and it's important every once in a while to take stock of what surrounds us.
If people are on your list, YOU have welcomed them in. If they are no longer welcome and only diminish your experience on there, you're allowed to remove them from your sphere without guilt or apology. Your page. Your rules. Your well-being over their negative presence.
The people I removed were not real world friends, FYI. If I actually had a problem with a friend, they'd know it. This isn't a promotion for dealing with personal problems by defriending someone. But if the random collection you have on Facebook includes people who only add negativity, or those whose mere presence reduces your joy, they don't belong in your close circle.
And trust me, Facebook is a close circle. You willingly consume the energy and ideas of those you follow multiple times a day, so be mindful of who you've chosen to infiltrate your spirit on the regular.
With love and a smaller list,
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