The other day I shared this post about breast implants to get people's feedback. I got plenty of it (listed at the bottom) and I decided to add this to my blog not because I need more feedback, but because it's clear that the desire for implants is more common than I thought. So I'm leaving this here in case any more of my readers were contemplating the same thing.
Here was the original post to my cyber crew:
I'm not sure if this post will ruffle a few feathers or not, but I feel compelled to share as openly about this topic as I do about everything else.
I'm 100% open to feedback as always (as long as you've read the whole thing first), and I know many of you won't share the same viewpoint as me and that's cool, but I want to talk about boob implants.
I'd love to hear if you've gotten them or know someone who has, if you love them or hate them, if you judge people who get them, if you think they look like beach balls (I think most of them do from what I've seen), if you've always dreamed of getting them or if you would never consider it in a million years.
I'm curious because I've been REALLY into the idea of getting implants. Not the beach ball kind but the more natural looking ones they offer now. Not anytime soon (as if I could afford them) and possibly never (I'd be fine without them because I already love my girls as they are), but if money was no object I might already have gotten them by now. Who knows.
This desire is NOT because I think there's something wrong with my boobs. We all know how much I love and celebrate them.
But in my last radio show and in a few FB posts recently, I've been more vocal about this idea. And yes it's a superficial one but I'm obviously fine with that.
Basically I want my boobs to look exactly like they do when I'm wearing a bra, but without the bra, for no other reason than to increase my personal happiness through looking at them - and the joy of not having to wear a bra for the desired effect.
What I would like to note is that I have spent a number of years not understanding why a woman would get implants, and when one of my friends got them about a decade or so ago, I admit that I judged her harshly for it at the time.
She was already perfect as she was and the fake boobs didn't make her look better in my opinion. It looked awkward on her frame. It wasn't her. But that's from my perspective and she had her own. Maybe she felt sexier and more beautiful as a result. I never asked. And frankly it's none of my damn business.
Now implants are much more common and the more I see them, the more I understand why women get them.
And this year I've been opening up to that possibility. Maybe it's because one of my biggest girl crushes got them and they look BEYOND glorious (most don't in my opinion) and I was like OMG. I would LOVE to see that in the mirror each day!
Again, I'm not complaining here about what I've got. I love my girls so much. But like, I'd also love to increase the awesomeness. Maybe. We'll see.
If you do choose to respond to this post, please DO NOT use "men love...." because that's irrelevant. Women do things for themselves. It's not about you. I could care less what men think of me or what I do. Plus, each man has different tastes. You can't speak for the whole. Just speak for yourself.
I do care a lot about what my friends think about this topic in particular however, because your feedback always helps me see things I might not have considered.
Thanks so much.
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Responses to this post (read them all here)
"I've always wanted a boob lift not so much to increase my size cuz I've always been a big chested girl but since I've lost (and gained) a shit ton of weight my girls definitely don't look like they do in a bra anymore and that is something I'd like to fix. However if the size needs to increase because of a fix then so be it." Kelly Sanzsole
Ok, I'll jump in. My friends wife wanted implants. He was totally fine with how she looked. She felt like she wanted them. They made sure to discuss it a lot and to ensure their family that it was something she wanted and wasn't being pressured into. In the end, they looked great. They were not huge but very proportional to her and "perky".
My fiancé has them. She had them before we got together. She said that always wanted bigger boobs. Again, they are not porn star huge but pretty big and proportioned. They look amazing. The feel took some getting used to. Honestly I don't have a preference for big or small. I just like boobs. Her breast size had absolutely nothing to do with my attraction to her.
I know of a few other women either in the process or are contemplating. I think each woman needs to decide for herself why she wanted them. It should never be solely to attract someone or because they feel a need to fit a certain idea. If it makes a woman feel better about herself and even more empowered, then I say go for it. I love all boobs. :0) Scott Hatlestad
"You. Are. Perfect. Yes, I would say that to most women. But you definitely have nothing to improve upon! Having seen obvious boob jobs and well done ones. I can honestly say man cannot improve upon what you already have. Even the best surgery is still obviously that, especially to the touch. Stay natural!" Jason McClellan
"I really wanted to post this publicly but I guess I was a bit nervous after I typed it all up to actually put it out there for everyone to see. I am open if people ask and it comes up but I don't know about sharing it here but since I did type it I thought I would share with you. If you want to share what I say without my name attached, go for it. Here is what I said: I might be the first to respond that actually has got implants and a lift. Teenage mom, breastfed two, went up and down in my weight, started working out and became flat as a board. I had boobs before pregnancy but never really got to enjoy them. I've wanted them for years and love them to pieces. I was fortunate to be able to afford them in my late 30's only have had them for a year. It was hard at first because yes people do judge but if you really ask a lot of girls if given the opportunity they would change something on there body. We live in a world now where there are options. My clothes fit amazing now and shirts I couldn't wear before, I can now. Do your research and ask lots of questions and if you really want them don't worry about anyone else. It's your body and your decision. I am one that is true to loving yourself so others said I was a hypocrite but it has nothing to do with loving myself or not, it was just something I wanted to do. Wow, I can't believe I just put it out there. Cheers and you are awesome. Glad we are friends on Facebook." Anonymous
"From what I understand there are two methods, the older and more obvious method involved cutting the breast itself (around the areola to disguise the scars) the newer and more likely the type that you would go for - they go through the armpit and behind the muscle. This method is great for giving a lift and leaves the look/feel of the breast tissue. Mandy, because I know you do things only when it's right for you , if it's what you want go for it! I feel comfortable knowing you will do research and come to the correct conclusions and methods etc that are right fit for your life. Continue being awesome. You are awesome how you are and for being who you are! If you decide some day that it's what you want for you then by all means go for it, if you don't do it I'm sure you'll still turn heads." Eric Lightfoot
"I have huge boobs but also am a plus size woman. I think the the lift thing for me is an interesting issue. I do love my boobs. They make me feel sexy and awesome. I just wish they would look as good as they look when using a bra. So yes. If I had the money I would try to make them perky all the time. On the other hand. I love that imperfect as they are they are an important part of me and make me a whole. So I hope that by the time I'm 50 i can have the money to make them look at least as happy as they look now! Hahaha i hope i made myself clear... xoxo" Lily Rivera
"It is painful. I got a reduction. They cut underneath and around the nipple as someone suggested above. But if it's what you want, then it's worth the pain for the outcome." Valerie Bush
"A few years ago I looked very seriously into getting them after a good friend did. I'm already a smallish D but have always liked the idea of the "beach ball" look, and hey, it's my body so why not?. Then I got knocked up. Twice. This dream has obviously been put on the back burner for a few years, but I still aspire to have the look I want, especially after two babies and 2.5 years of breastfeeding. The only hang up I have about it is the probability of having maintenance surgeries every ten years or so." Janice King
"I'd love the same... To get the same effect without a bra. What has always concerned me regarding enhancement procedures, is does it feel the same pleasure/sensation wise for the woman? I think there are mixed reviews on that." Melanie Monaghan
"Personally I prefer the natural look. I don't know much about "natural looking" implants. In my younger days I often imagined that later in life I'd want/"need" some sort of work done but turns out I'm quite happy as I am. Kinda blessed." Wendy Ryan
"Ultimately it's a personal preference I would have said no thanks years ago but as age catches up we tend to see our bodies a little less the way it once was...but I'm definitely for a lift I personally love my boobs but they could use a little jolt lol a little lift upgrade. I would go for it if that what you want if its a good feeling for you. Age my friend, is what happens to our bodies and even at 70 if your still rocking your boobs you go girl :) I probably will get them lifted within the next 7 years. We shall see. Good topic tho glad I'm not alone in my thinking." Alicia L. Ford
"I vote no cause they look like they hurt...saw a woman at the gym and hers were so tight they looked painful. I like soft boobies." Shawnda Chambers
"If I had the money, I'd totally do it... But it's around $9k. Maybe if I win the lottery." Susan Anderson
Read all the comments and my responses here. My apologies that you can't comment directly on my site. The internet is an asshole so I disabled comments a few years ago. I always trust my friends to be sane and respectful though.
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