The club experience, especially when I'm out with Paige, always brings my age to the forefront when people find out that we are mother and daughter. After that, they always want to know how old I am because I really don't look 38 and they have a hard time making sense of when I could have had a child old enough to be at a club with me. I do get it, but the age thing always irks me only because I don't think of myself in terms of how many years I've been alive. I measure myself based on who I am at my core.
How old is awesome times infinity?
I really do wish that ages could be replaced by levels of awesomeness - like what level you've reached so far in your life (I'd be platinum, as would Paige and my other loves), not how long you've managed to stick around on this silly planet.
The quality and magnificence of who you are is so much more than just a number on a birth certificate, or on a scale for that matter.
I connect (or don't connect) with people based on energy. I measure someone based on how I feel in their presence (does their energy expand me or make me contract?) and if you're a pure soul and good-hearted human or a wonderful animal friend, you're in my circle regardless of age (or colour of fur).
When people tell me I look great for my age or that I look much younger than I am, of course I take it as a compliment, but I want it on the record that looking younger than I am is not a goal of mine.
Celebrating the beauty of every age and stage is.
I know people 10+ years younger than me who have gotten botox and other injections or implants and it always hurts my heart. Not because I think it's inherently wrong to change the way your body looks (I think we are all entitled to do whatever it is that makes us feel most wonderful while we walk upon this earth), but I do find it sad to be part of a culture that is so discontent with being naturally human and looking as you are.
The pressure surrounding us to look younger and to strive for these unrealistic standards of beauty is such a burden to bear for almost any female. Not fair.
We should be celebrating, not dreading, the natural process of life.
What is wrong with looking your age anyways? Why is being you as you are not enough? Why are lines considered bad? Why can't we handle aging? Why are we buying into the societal bullshit that convinces us we need a constant upgrade on every front? What are these gorgeous creatures seeing in the mirror each day that makes them feel they need to alter themselves so much to be more beautiful when they are already perfect as they are? Why have so many jumped on that train? And why has being "natural" become the exception?
I hope to be a living example of it being ok to be whatever age you are, exactly as you are. But who knows, maybe one day I'll join the same insane train as too many others, but I sure hope not. I think we need more role models of people who are unapologetically natural. Who are bold enough to simply be what God or the Flying Spaghetti Monster made us to be.
Is it that impossible to move through life without peeling away, colouring, or filling up what makes us who we are?
I really wonder.
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