So I just received a call from Brian's friend (the one who called me to let me know he only had a few days left) and I learned more about how things unfolded in those final days.
She found my name and number inside a cigarette pack as she was cleaning Brian's place that day, gathered it must be Lowana's daughter, and thought to reach out. Wow. What were the chances?!
She believes that everything happens for a reason and that she was meant to find my number that day. She also believes that Brian was waiting for me to come visit before he could pass and once I did, his circle was complete. He passed the next morning.
What is bittersweet about this, is that she did not get a chance to say her last goodbye, whereas I did. She made it possible for me to have the greatest gift I could ever have with Brian, yet due to some incredibly unfortunate family drama and legal battles, she was denied the opportunity to visit her dear friend of 7 years at Lisaard House. She is also not allowed to attend the service for Brian this Thursday, which she just called to invite me to.
Without naming her or condemning those who have turned my friend's passing into a battle, I would like to say that this is the last thing that Brian would have wanted for anyone. He was the kindest, most generous and loving soul you could ever meet, and he most especially would have wanted this woman, his friend of many years, the one who was kind enough to reach out to me and tell me what was going on, to at least be able to pay her respects.
I was so sad to hear about everything that has happened over the last 2 weeks. And she was sad that Brian has not been honoured properly throughout all of this.
So I told her about all the love you all have sent Brian's way, and that I had complete strangers from different parts of the world saying the most loving things about him, and it really touched her. It meant a lot.
She will be having her own gathering to celebrate Brian's life and being and I look forward to being part of that. And again, I am just so very grateful this woman found that number and made that call when she did.
P.S. This is a picture of my favourite tree. I call it the wish tree because for some reason I've been making wishes on it every time I pass it (about 3 times a day) for the past 10 years.
Today I wish for peace between Brian's friends and family. I wish for perseverance and courage to be delivered to this woman who is facing an inordinate amount of stress, legal bills and grief she has yet to deal with because she's too busy tending to all of this.
And I especially wish that she has the wedding of her dreams once this is all said and done. She has had to postpone it to pay for what's going on. Again, the last thing Brian would have ever wanted.
May all the parties involved find a way to align with what truly matters as they deal with the loss of someone they love.
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