I thought it might be time to address the various misconceptions people have about me and the work that I do in this world; specifically in the area of personal transformation and empowerment.
It seems that anyone who works in this field gets lumped in with the rest. Spiritual guides are often revered for their insights, and considering that most people are out of touch with their own inner wisdom, it makes sense that any spiritual 'teacher' has a following.
Everyone is looking for answers. Most of us are looking for meaning, and all of us just want to be happy and at peace. So we attend workshops, buy self-help books, join classes, groups, and engage with like-minded individuals in an attempt to find what we're searching for.
We are desperate for change, for that moment when it all makes sense, and sometimes we need a reason to keep going when things get rough.
We'll I'm here to tell you a thing or two about a thing or two. Spiritual guides are not super human and don't possess anything that you don't. We all have access to truth in every moment, and none of us are without that intuitive power that shows us where we need to go and grow.
But because of all the things in life that appear to lead us away from who we really are (I say appear because truthfully we can never actually disconnect from our core), we forget to look within and we end up going without. When that happens, we seek out those who are more in tune with their true nature, in the hopes that we will be led back to our own.
This is what my GOD & DIVA class is about fundamentally, and what I offer to each individual who comes through my door is the reminder that they are already there, they are already perfect, and that there is nothing I know that they do not. I do not attempt to fix them since they are not broken (they've just temporarily forgotten their essence) or claim to have the answer. I simply help them to remember who they are.
What I provide is a safe and supportive space to be, without artifice. That space is beyond the physical. It is an energy that surrounds me and therefore, us, during our time together.
So, my ultimate goal as a healer is to keep myself fine tuned by being current with myself and what is going on in my world at any given moment. The more conscious I am of myself and what is happening inwardly, the more light and clarity I can bring to each dynamic I share with another being.
Because I am present much of the time, my life force is strong. People feel inspired and elevated and stronger around me as a consequence, which is fabulous. But because of those 'high' moments that I project and share, people often assume that I am strong, empowered and have all my shit together every step of the way. I don't.
While it is sometimes true that I'm rockin' the flow like a mofo, I also have many moments of being and feeling weak, and times when I totally fall apart. It is often those times of weakness and having the world crash down however, that eventually lead to me becoming much stronger and wiser in a particular area.
I hardly have it all together. I have some things together some of the time but certainly not all things all the time. No one does. Life ebbs and flows. So do we.
I think that is what people resonate with the most when they come to my class. The fact that I've been through the same hell they are currently going through, and that I am still here to talk about it. It gives them hope. It bonds us. And it automatically creates a level of trust even if we were strangers just moments ago.
It is easy to let our guard down around those who are real and unguarded themselves.
I don't have all the answers, and I certainly don't have the answers for anyone I meet. But what I do have is my experience and the ability to articulate the human condition it in a way that others can relate to.
In a way, my 'teaching' is simply my life lived and shared.
I delve into the inner landscape and report back my findings and people tend to find this inspiring. I always found that interesting, that people were are inspired by someone just saying what's what. By someone just telling it like it is. By someone who shares her struggles openly for all to read about. You'd think that being real and sane would be expected amongst us humans, but alas, it is a hot commodity in our world.
Because I work in the area of personal transformation and empowerment, people tend to have particular expectations of me and how I operate. I am expected to love everyone, be 'nice', never get angry, tolerate other people's bullshit (because hey, we all have issues, right?), and be more understanding and forgiving than the average person. But like I said, I'm human just like everyone else. I fuck up. I'm incredibly reactive at home, I defriend people on Facebook for the strangest of reasons, I dislike most humans, and I think people who don't like me are fucked. So what?
I'm not claiming to be some enlightened being that can show you how to be 'better' (you're already perfect as you are). What I am is an awesome human with the big enough balls to share far too much with the world in the hopes that those reading will feel affirmed along their path. I'm Mandy, and that's good enough. It's plenty.
I'm not out to change the world. I'm here to be myself as fully as I can and trust that by doing so, others will be inspired to live more fully themselves.
Those who actually get what I am about, and what my work is about, know better than to put me on this self-help pedestal. They'd know that being a GOD or DIVA is about being yourself as you are; flaws and all. It's about growing and changing and fucking up and getting back on the horse, falling down, saying the wrong thing, and then trying again.
It's about learning how to love yourself a little more each day. It's about learning whatever lessons you're here to learn. It's about giving up then finding a reason to carry on.
It's about being human.
I am human. I'm no guru. I can't fix your shit, let alone mine, but most days I have enough light at my disposal to help you find your way through the darkness. That is what I offer.
In my opinion, the greatest teachers inspire you to be great as well. The don't need or want followers. They want to be liberated and naturally they want you to be as well.
They do not claim to have your answers or the key to unlocking your potential. Only you possess the key. They can be an example but they cannot hold your hand. It is a journey only you can take. No one can do it for you.
Their greatest gift is being real, which inspires you to get real with yourself. They are motivated by their own journey which they willingly share with others; not because their way is the right way, but because they know that their experiences have the potential to shed some light for those with eyes to see.
True leaders are the greatest students. They are open to learning the lessons that life is here to offer, and in sharing these lessons with others, they solidify the teachings within themselves.
Spiritual warriors go through hell and aren't ashamed to admit it. They don't pretend that they are invincible and hide their failings, their past, their inadequacies. They are bold enough to be genuine. This quality is what I most value in others; the courage to be real. That's where it's at.
And being real means not being perfect. It means messing up but trying again. It means being vulnerable, honest and accountable. That is the kind of person worth emulating. Not the one who promises you the world.
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