The death of another is a call for you to LIVE, folks. Too many of us take life for granted and assume we will be here tomorrow, next week, or next year.
We need to wake up from that illusion.
All we really have is this moment and the next if we're lucky. So are you really going to spend your precious moments criticizing or mocking a fellow human for being human and struggling just like the rest of us?
Don't be dumb. Let Amy Winehouse's death deepen your compassion for those who struggle with addiction and allow it to fortify your will to carry on with your own life and inspire you to face your own darkness.
We ALL hurt and we all seek relief from that hurt in the best way we know how. Who are we to judge another's path?
Whether you get your 'fix' through sugar, television, over-eating, porn, meaningless sex, shopping or drugs, makes you no different than Amy.
How dare any of us scoff at her. Who here has got is all figured out? Who here is free from inner pain and all the ways that manifests in our lives?
It is far too easy to point fingers and laugh at others from the comfort of our own couch. The internet creates the "us versus them" mentality and creates a separation between us and the famous. News flash, folks: they are human, too. They have family and they have friends just like the rest of us. And they have to put up with the tabloids and ignorant strangers watching and criticizing their every move.
What kind of world are we creating?
If your friend, your sibling, your parent or child died, those around you would sympathize. They would feel your pain. They wouldn't dare make a joke.
Someone just died for fuck's sake. DIED! There is no reversing that.
The only sane response is sympathy for the loved ones of the deceased, and appreciation for life itself. All else is insanity.
Yet when it comes to someone famous with a known struggle with addiction, people have the nerve to waste what remains of their own life by being insensitive to the deceased because of bullshit they read in gossip columns.
Why do we support this?
As if we all don't know or love someone who is caught in the cycle of addiction. Where is our heart? Where is our connection to the human race? And why do we think we can shun others while remaining in tact ourselves?
We cannot. We are all connected.
And we all have a version of Hitler and Mother Theresa within each of us. None of us is perfect. We all have an equal capacity for evil and goodness, darkness and light. So stop being mean to those whose darkness merely reflects your own.
If you think you are so much better than Amy, think again, my friend. If you were so good and pure and evolved yourself, you would not need to criticize her or anyone else for that matter. You would see things clearly and have compassion for all beings.
You would extend love, not hate, and you would know that life is a mirror and everything you see outside of you is a perfect reflection of yourself.
This rant is for society at large; not for specific individuals. It's a call to wake the fuck up before you take your last breath. It is a call to spend your life on what really matters, and let me tell you that monitoring how another chooses to live is a fucking waste of your energy and your purpose in life.
Ideally, everyone should treasure life and their loved ones even more whenever they hear of the death of another; especially that of someone so young. It should make you appreciate the fact that you are still here. They are not.
Death is a call for people to live but most people don't wake up to that wisdom. That is a shame.
For those who might wonder why (or are complaining that) people post "RIP Amy Winehouse" (or any other celebrity who has passed) and are mourning someone they don't even know, I think it isn't just because they are fans but because music (or any art form) heals all of us, and death is universal.
Music is the reason some people are able to carry on in life, so it is very possible that to some, musicians are like a best friend, even a saving grace.
People have a right to mourn what once touched their hearts or lives or helped get them though the dark times. I wasn't even a huge fan of Amy's music but I have great compassion for anyone who struggles with addiction.
Life is not easy for any of us, really.
Peace to all of us.
To those who have passed, who live, and have yet to arrive.
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